Important questions to ask before getting married

• ·How do you prioritise your salah in daily life?
• ·What does your relationship with the Qur'an look like day-to-day?
• ·Which scholars or teachers do you follow and why?
• ·How important is it to you that we practice deen together as a couple?
• ·How do you feel about raising children with a strong Islamic foundation?

These questions reveal not just someone's level of practice but their intention and direction. Someone who is not very practising now but is actively trying to improve is very different from someone who has no intention of changing.

• ·Do you expect to live with or near family after marriage?
• ·What is your relationship like with your parents and siblings?
• ·How would you handle conflict between me and your family?
• ·Do you want children, and if so, how many and when?
• ·What are your expectations around childcare — will one of us stay home?

Family dynamics are one of the most common sources of conflict in marriage. Understanding expectations early prevents painful surprises later.

• ·What are your financial habits — do you save, spend, or budget?
• ·Would you expect me to work after marriage?
• ·How do you feel about the wife's earnings — are they her own, or shared?
• ·What does a comfortable life look like to you?
• ·Do you have any significant debts or financial obligations?

Finances are another major pressure point in marriages. There is no right or wrong answer to most of these — but you need to know if your answers align.

• ·What does a good marriage look like to you?
• ·How do you handle conflict or disagreement?
• ·What are your expectations around quality time together?
• ·Are there any dealbreakers I should know about from the start?

Many couples never discuss these things before marriage and are blindsided. Asking them early — through a wali or in a proper setting — is mature and wise, not awkward.

• ·Is there anything about your physical or mental health I should be aware of?
• ·Do you have any ongoing medical conditions that affect daily life?
• ·How do you feel about a spouse who has a chronic condition or disability?

On Sabrly, members can disclose chronic illness, physical disability, or mental health conditions on their profiles. This encourages transparency and helps people find genuinely compatible matches.

You don't need to fire all of these at once. Use the early conversations to explore these topics naturally — not as an interrogation, but as a genuine getting-to-know-you process. Always with the wali aware and involved.